February 8, 2018
You’re hungry and decide to order a pizza.
It’s the 1960s, so you’re flipping through the big book of yellow pages to find the number of your favorite takeout pizza place.
Your finger slides down the paper, finds it, and marks the spot of the phone number as you start to dial the ten digits with your other free hand.
Ring. Ringg. Ringgg.
“Hello. Marlene speaking!”
Little did my grandpa know that night “Uncle Johnny” called to order dinner, he would have dialed just one number off and called his future wife.
That is the beginning of my grandparent’s love story; one that is still being written with just as much excitement 54 years later.
I talk about my grandparent’s marriage a lot. I decided to write out some things that I admire about their relationship and 3 things I hope to have in my relationship someday.
Then maybe I’ll stop talking about it (but probably not).
And I mean everything. When I am traveling with my grandparents, I have walked into a room in the morning to see the two holding hands, praying over each name in our family. And I know they do this every. single. day.
Their relationship with God is even more important than their relationship with each other.
This explains why they put each other’s needs above their own; it is why they love one another so well.
Recently, my grandma got a knee replacement. I was visiting them one weekend post-surgery and I saw my grandpa do each and every PT exercise with her. Even when she reached her max, he pushed her gently to do more than she thought possible. She recovered way better than the doctors were expecting!
My grandma is known for her dinner rolls and every time, without fail, when they come out of the oven my grandpa will make it a point to tell the cook that he “likes her buns”.
He is always telling my grandma how beautiful she is and takes any opportunity to kiss her (no matter how gross the young grandkids think it is).
I told my grandparents I need some information on their marriage for a relational communication class (sorry, grandma and grandpa, it was just for this). One reason they think their marriage is successful is because they don’t go to bed angry.
I love this.
It doesn’t hide the fact that there will be difficulties and conflict (there had to be a few of those in 54 years), but it promotes the importance of good communication.
As Valentine’s Day comes close, I hope you can reflect on these, whether you’re currently in a relationship or not.
Is your faith the priority of your relationship? Do you desire to see your significant other grow? Is it fun?
Maybe you won’t meet your future spouse through calling the wrong number, but I do believe your love story is so much greater than the one that you could write for yourself.
What relationship advice do you have to set yourself up for 50+ years of success?